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Spain: Motherland Part II

Next stop in my Toledo tour was The Primate Cathedral of Saint Mary of Toledo. Like I’ve said before, I love going to Cathedrals, I love vaulted ceilings, which places like this have enough of, they also have stained glass. And pipe organs. But look at all that art, all the details (in gold and marble looks like).

That night was my birthday eve and I went to a bar crawl, I was having a lot of fun, visited several bars, it was about 2AM, I had enough, and decided to go home. I get an Uber, and as I’m waiting for it, I stop at a nearby food place, and in a crowded street, a guy starts harassing me, I tell him no, move away from him, but he walks into me, I push him away, I thought that was the end of it, when I realize I don’t have my phone, I had just used it to pay for the food, so I go back to the food place to check I didn’t leave it, it’s not there, then I realize I had to have put it on my coat pocket and the guy stole it. I tried to see if I saw him and he was gone. I started freaking out, wasn’t sure how I’d go back to the Airbnb, because, my cards were also attached to my phone. A guy on the street told me to calm down but I couldn’t, I was in a foreign city, far from my airbnb, with no knowledge on how I’d get back. So I did the only thing I could think of, which was go back to the bar and try to find the group I was with so I could try to get in touch with my dad, so he could block my phone. The bar crawl guide wasn’t super helpful apart from letting me borrow his phone to talk to my dad (didn’t help me getting back to my airbnb) but three people I met two hours before offered help, one guy even told me to log into my apple account from his phone so we could track mine, and he’d go to get my phone, but in the stress of it I couldn’t remember my password. The girl helped me breathe, told me that everyone’s gone through that, to which I responded I hadn’t, so she said “well, now you have”, which wasn’t funny then, but it is now. After using her phone to get in touch with my dad, he blocked my phone, and deletes everything from it. I always use my GPS to get around a foreign city, I don’t usually remember the address of where I am staying, for some reason, I remembered the address of this Airbnb, I don’t know how, but the why was so I could get back. The third guy got cash and paid for a cab for me to get back. I get back to my Airbnb, and from my watch I text a friend of mine that has an iPhone, he helps me with communication between me and my dad, since my dad doesn’t have an iPhone I can’t call him through the watch. At the Airbnb, and as I’m talking to my friend about what happened, I started having an anxiety attack. I didn’t even eat my food until it was cold. By then I had lost all appetite. I was going to attempt to get my iPhone replaced in Madrid, that morning I was meant to check out, so my friend sends me the address of the closest Apple Store, I walk there that morning with all my shit. I am on high alert and on edge, so much that I snapped at a lady on the street trying to sell me flowers, she got too close and it triggered me. I got to the Apple Store but unfortunately I couldn’t change my phone there as it was from another country (Apple might have changed that policy now), so I went to a phone store nearby and got a new phone, oh, remember I said he stole my cards too? Thankfully I had ONE on me, I never use debit cards on international trips so he just stole my credit cards, which was unfortunate, but I had a debit card, which I used for the remainder of this trip. The fucking phone cost me more than an iPhone replacement and it is the single most shitty phone ever. It was literally easier to open instagram, take a picture, download it than opening the phone app. I swear. Also the quality of pictures was shitty so bear with me the rest of the trip’s pics.

My last stop in Madrid was my dear Santiago Bernabeu, the home of Real Madrid. It was under construction, but it was still pretty majestic.

I got to see the stadium where a lot of my favorite stars had played at, where football history has been made. Unfortunately for me, they we playing away games when I was in Madrid, so I couldn’t see them, I think they had played as locals the week before and they’d be playing there the following week, so in short, bad timing.

That afternoon I took a train to Barcelona, another fast train, a 385 mile trip, roughly 6hrs driving took around 3hrs aboard the train, and it’s weird? It’s going really fast but you barely notice it, even as they travel around 186mph. I don’t have pictures of the interim because all the down time I had waiting at the train station, and on the train I spent setting the fucking phone, and calling credit card companies to cancel my cards, calling Apple to report the phone as stolen, which fun fact, when you’re calling from a Spanish number, it redirects you to a the Spanish brand EVEN if you’re calling the US number, so I had to get them to redirect me several times. All that process was SUPER fun. I think I slept some on the train but not much and even if I had slept the whole way it wasn’t a long trip. Anyway, I get to my Barcelona Airbnb, late, around 9 or 10pm, I think, tired as fuck. I shower and fall asleep as soon as I can, I was supposed to go to a bar crawl in Barcelona that night (birthday night), however I skipped it because, well, hadn’t slept for over 24hrs. And because I’m a masochist bitch, I had scheduled a tour of the Camp Nou the following morning at like 10AM, so I didn’t have lots of time to sleep if I went out.

For my football fans, specially those familiar with Real Madrid’s and Barcelona’s rivalry, I know, okay, I know, however, I was in Barcelona, there was no way I’d miss the stadium, and unlike Santiago Bernabeu they weren’t under construction and had a very thorough museum. If I took a photo of the stadium it’s lost in the shitty android Spanish phone (very sad). They had replicas of Messi’s Ballon D’or, several of them in fact, and I think he donated one of them so it was the real thing. If you keep scrolling, you can see the stadium, in several views, the entrance the players use to enter the field, and there’s a chapel in that tunnel as well.

I stopped at the Barça café and had a little coffee, which, cute.

So okay, this is the key of the Airbnb I stayed at, I had to be taught how to use it because I could lock anyone inside if I locked it a certain way, so essentially when I walked out, I’d just close the door and it was locked.

I asked the Airbnb person for a spot to watch the game Barça was playing that day –I had figured if I couldn’t watch Real Madrid, at least I could see FCB in person, but because I have shit luck, they were also playing an away game… so I figured the next best thing was to go watch them play at a bar, with locals, and indeed was the best thing. I got a mojito, mozzarella sticks, but that wasn’t even the best thing. You know how as an English speaker, the English or Australian accent is hot? Well Spanish accent is that for my ears, you see the girl in front of me, the guy she was with did the most Spanish thing ever and said something along the lines “joder tío” (roughly translated to “fuck dude”), when a player missed a goal, I swear I almost squealed. Barcelona lost that game against Almeria, 1-0, so the fans were not happy. It was unfortunate but regardless the atmosphere was on-point.

Part II consisted of days three and four, so I will finish this trip on a third blog as to not make it overly long and bore you to death. But for your information, the last leg of the trip was excellent it’s soooooo worth it to stay tuned.

As Always,

With Love,

Carolyn

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Spain: Motherland Part I

One of my bucket list countries was Spain, the possibility presented itself for my 29th birthday in 2023. I wanted to see as much as possible, so I planned for an arrival in Madrid, I’d go around for 3-4 days, make a day trip to Toledo and I’d take a train to Barcelona, and fly back from there.

My trip started on February 22, 2023, I wanted to be IN Spain during my birthday and not traveling so I left a few days early. One thing I do to avoid jet lag, specially when crossing the pond, is to take a late flight, arrive to my destination in the morning, and just survive through the day and sleep at the appropriate destination time. This particular flight departed at 6:30pm from Pittsburgh international airport, had a stop in Philadelphia and then on to Madrid. One thing to note about me is I HATE flying. I know, I know, for someone that hates flying I fly a lot. I like getting to a destination, but not the how. I get air sick, I get dizzy, it’s very very uncomfortable, my body very much hates flying. It’s not even that I’m big for the seats —I have actually lost enough fat that I fit pretty comfortably in the seat, it’s that I’m fucking tall, doesn’t matter what, my knees are almost always hitting the front seat. And I’m too cheap to pay for an upgraded seat. So I just take it. I’m a masochist, I know.

It was like a six hour flight from Philadelphia, it was 8pm by the time we flew out, so I got my plane snacks and slept. I don’t sleep very well on flights (read everything in the previous paragraph as to why haha), but I’m also a nervous flyer, and that reflects on food with me, so I’ll always eat so. Fucking. Much. I’d just be hungry the entire time. It’s fucking insane. Anyway, I arrived at 9am in Madrid.

First thing I did was find food. I arrived at this little cafe close to where my Airbnb was, ordered a tomato toast (bear with me). It’s puréed tomato, you spread it on the bread and pour in some olive oil and put a dash of salt. I was skeptical, but omg. To this day I make my version of this and fucking hell, it’s great.

But I couldn’t have my toast with a little cafecito, could I?

I finally got my hotel at around 12pm, I recouped, and went out, I had a quick lunch because that toast was not enough food. This Reuben was sooo good, I mean honestly, I didn’t eat anything that wasn’t good.

After lunch, the next stop was the Royal Palace of Madrid, it was open in 1751, so it has been open for 273 years at this point, it is the official residence of the Spanish Royal Family, but they just use it for state ceremonies now.

There was so much art inside, it is a huge a building and I am a sucker for old buildings. I don’t have a lot of pictures, I’m pretty sure we weren’t able to take pictures at some spots.

But let me tell you that the view from the Palace… was mesmerizing, it was also super breezy. And there’s me, living my best life, looking pretty good and on no sleep.

Next to the Palace, there is the Almudena Cathedral and the Plaza de Armería which is a very nice walkable area between the Palace and Cathedral. I don’t really practice religion but I love cathedrals, so I visit them everywhere I go.

I couldn’t leave Madrid without seeing the place where my dear football team celebrates, the lady Cybele, the Cibeles Fountain and Palace.

My next stop was the Prado Museum and I did not take any pictures except this fit check (RIP to the phone… more on that later).

More food because Spain you know?! I love croquettes and I don’t eat them nearly enough, like very time I have a layover in Miami airport I am VERY excited because there is a Cuban restaurant there and their ham croquettes are excellent. These Spanish ones were very good as well.

Talking about Cuba… it reads “Motherland and life, down with dictatorship” and it’s a beautiful country I’d like to visit one day. Spain colonized a lot of countries in Latin America, Puerto Rico being one of them, they killed and maimed people and civilizations, they enslaved people from African countries, brought them to the west, far from their families and everything they’ve known. I go into some detail about Spain and Puerto Rico (and the subsequent sale to the US), you can read more about it here.

More coffee because, you know.

They make this omelette with potatoes inside let me tell youuuuuu (I showed it twice because it was that good). Okay more food because food is life. Iberian Ham, bread, crushed tomatoes and churros. I fucking love churros.

Okay, enough about food (for now), my next stop was Toledo, to get to there, a train is your best bet, these are high speed trains mind you, the trip the drive is about an hour, in train that is around 36 minutes.

The trip there was uneventful, but once I got off the train… I got welcomed by a very beautiful station. I LOVE stained glass, which is a big reason of why I love going to churches, many of them in Europe have them. Toledo was under islamic rule at one point in time which explains why the station looks the way it does — particularly the inside.

But I hadn’t even gotten to the best part yet… This is close, but it gives you an idea of what Toledo looks like. It is a very old city, about two thousand years of history.

It is a bit of a walk from the station to the entrance of Toledo, but at the end of this bridge you’re met with this beautiful tower. And then when you take a look back, this (right image) the view you get.

This is the side view of the bridge, like I said, stunning every step I took. No regrets in going to Toledo. Except maybe that I should have 1. brought better shoes and 2. That I should have hired a tour guide to get the better views, specifically since this was just a day trip.

More of that islamic influence I mentioned before:

I LOVE walking, I end up getting 20k+ steps when I’m on trips like this. But Toledo, I was NOT prepared for. Not only it was a long walk from the station (~20mins) there was this… it’s a lot steeper than it looks like.

And it didn’t stop once I got to the top…

My first stop in Toledo was Santa Cruz museum, it is an art, archeology museum, and it includes works by El Greco, a famous greek painter of the Spanish Renaissance.

There was so much art here, I’ll compile a few of my favorite ones.

One thing that I love –if you haven’t noticed is architecture. This is the center of the museum, there is this huge sky light, I’m in love with ceilings like this one.

Something that you’ll see often in older Spanish buildings (and there are a few in Puerto Rico as well) is indoor gardens or patios. So the tour of the museum continued.

Next stop was Alcázar of Toledo, a fortification, which is in the highest spot of Toledo, it used to be a Roman palace (it even hosted Hernán Cortés after the Aztecs “conquest” aka genocide). It was very interesting and mind boggling to see all this new architecture carefully placed over the old one, and how it just worked.

More food because all this walking made me hungry asf. Chicken, eggs and French fries, good, whatever salad it was, good, coke (even Coke Zero) tastes better in a glass container, trust me, and I couldn’t leave without dessert, a marzipan cake and more coffee — are you surprised I got even more coffee?

My view from the fort.

I loved walking out and finding this huge Spanish flag. It felt surreal that I was in Spain after wanting to visit for so long.

This was day two (out of six) of my trip to Spain and this is longer than I was expecting but there are still soooo many other places I want to share with you guys that one post won’t be enough. Soooo, stay tuned for parts two (and maybe three?).

As always,

With Love,

Carolyn

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The One Where I Spent The Holidays By Myself

The One Where I Spent The Holidays By Myself

When I got accepted into grad school and I had to move out of my home, I figured it was in due time, anyway and I was utterly excited. I was 23 years old at the time, and that’s enough time to have lived with your mom. I’ve always been very mature and independent, and by then I did most of my stuff by myself. My parents didn’t have to worry about me. So, I fooled myself into believing that I was ready to live by myself on a foreign town. And I was. Because it’s been a year and a half, and I am alive and all my bills are being paid on time, but on the personal front, I’ve learned that’s not all there is to living by yourself. You need friends, connections, human contact. I didn’t think making friends would be hard for me. While I haven’t lived by myself on different towns, I have lived on a couple towns for a few months at a time while doing summer research at colleges in the U.S., and it wasn’t hard making friends in those places. But I guess circumstances were different back then, we were all new on those places. so to some extent we all needed to make friends. Whereas here, most of the people are locals, and the few that aren’t, already have their own circle of friends. This is a small town and it doesn’t have a lot of diversity…

The first year wasn’t too bad: I met a few people and we talked, but when it came to hanging out there were always a lot of “buts”, and when that starts happening, you know it’s time to walk away and not push it (I’m the queen of pushing things). But before I knew they were not going to be the type of friends that I wanted them to be, I got invited to Thanksgiving and Christmas by two of them, and that seemed promising. Also, the fact that I had a friend within driving distance helped. While I enjoyed both holiday parties, it didn’t mean to them what it did to me, and that’s perfectly fine, but at the time I didn’t know. For me things are all or nothing, either we’re friends and we hang out, or we’re not. It’s hard for me to act in shades of gray. And that’s what these friendships were, gray. The thing is, I talk a lot and as so, I tend to share a lot. I did that with them, but since it was a gray-friendship, they didn’t confided in me much. Like I said before, a lot of excuses were spoken whenever I would bring up possible things to do, and I realized that for the most part if I didn’t contact them, they wouldn’t contact me either.

That brings me to this summer. I have talked about people I met this summer that became my friends, and also about this other friend I had, which due to misinterpretations ended up breaking up with me. These relationships helped me grow a lot, and while the last one went horribly wrong and it hurt a lot, I learned more than I expected from such a bad situation (it ended in the worst possible way). Since I don’t talk to the other people I know as much, and this one friend turned out to not be a friend after all, I didn’t have anywhere to go for Thanksgiving. This year marked the first time I spent Thanksgiving by myself, and in the days leading up to it I was feeling really sad. I had debated on what to do, I could either make dinner for myself and enjoy the evening, or do nothing and feel sorry myself. So, I decided to make dinner while feeling sorry for myself. Since I live by the go big or go home motto, I went out to buy a turkey and I figured I shouldn’t buy the whole turkey. I learned there’s a thing called a “young turkey”, that I then proceeded to buy (although I regretted it later because I had to eat turkey for breakfast, lunch and dinner anyway for the following days). I bought the ingredients for a traditional Puerto Rican Thanksgiving dinner which consists of rice with pigeon peas, turkey and either a potato salad or an elbow pasta salad. I opted for the elbow pasta salad. I didn’t have pigeon peas and the grocery stores near my place didn’t have a huge variety of Puerto Rican food, but I assumed naïvely they would have to sell pigeon peas somewhere. I ended up buying peas since they looked similar.

Thanksgiving day came. I seasoned the turkey about two days prior and I took it out of the fridge, placed it in a bag and then in the oven. I decided that I would watch all the Friends’ Thanksgiving episodes. That’s how my day started, turkey in the oven while watching “The one where Underdog gets away” (Season 1, Episode 9). I’m so pathetic, I thought. The breakup with my friend had been recent too, so a combination of those things had me feeling down. At lunch time I started to cook dinner, I realized then that the peas were not pigeon peas and I started laughing my ass off. That was stupid, but I couldn’t stop laughing. I decided to make the rice with the peas anyway and crossed my fingers to hope it didn’t make the rice taste that different (Spoiler: it didn’t). Then it was time to boil the pasta and the eggs. I left everything on the stove cooking and kept watching Friends. I lost track of time and by the time I went back, the pasta water was all dried up so I took it and moved it a little bit. What I didn’t count on was that the egg was overcooked, burnt and stuck to the pan so when I moved the pan the egg kind of exploded. You would think that I felt bad, but I laughed again, a lot. And just like that, the pathetic Thanksgiving wasn’t so pathetic anymore and I ended up enjoying it. It was truly one of the best things I could have done. I realized then that I needed to learn how to be okay by myself, and that day had helped a lot.

I went home to Puerto Rico for two weeks after school was over and I enjoyed it (there was some back and forth but that’s not the point of this). But I was coming back before New Year’s Eve, which meant that I was going to be spending that by myself too. This time though, I wasn’t feeling sorry for myself, I was looking forward to it. So I brought groceries and I cooked a nice meal for myself, bought wine and made sangria. I got my copies of The Lord of The Rings out and played them. According to a meme I saw, if I played Two Towers at a certain time, I could receive the New Year with Théoden saying: So it begins. And I was eager to see if it worked… it didn’t, I was off for like ten minutes. But that brought its own fit of laughter. I felt at ease. I felt fine. And while a few people around me felt bad for me, I didn’t. It’s all part of growing up and I’m at peace with it, which I think it’s a great place to be at.

Carolyn